Today our psychiatrist wrote out a prescription for my oldest son on how to deal with bullying. He pointed out that kids are taught to ignore bullying, but they are never taught what to actually do. Here is what he told my son to do the next time he faced a bully:
1. Change the subject
For example, a kid says, “Your shoes are dorky”. You respond with, “The superbowl was so fun to watch, did anyone else see it.”
2. Say something funny
Many comedians have learned to take the attention that is placed on them and turn it into an audience by being silly and making people laugh. Though don’t make fun of the bully.
For example, A kid says, “Your shoes are dorky”. You respond with, “If that’s what you think.”
4. React only a little
Say, “that hurt my feelings.” But remember that you need to keep emotions small so that you don’t reward the bully with explosive reactions.
Just walk away.
By taking one of these actions, a bully is not rewarded by getting you upset and in the end, they lose interest in bullying you. As our psychiatrist pointed out, these are great tools that you can use for the rest of your life.
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According to our psychiatrist, this prescription was inspired by the following book:
Simon’s Hook; A Story About Teases and Put-downs [Paperback]